Answer
$$r=-8\quad \mathrm{or}\quad \:r=0$$
Work Step by Step
Since the value inside the absolute value can be positive or negative and get the same number, we must consider both options. Doing this, we find:
$$-4-r=-4\quad \mathrm{or}\quad \:-4-r=4 \\ r=-8\quad \mathrm{or}\quad \:r=0$$