In what ways does the mother pressure her daughter to change

I'm sorry, the answer to your question relies heavily on what mother/daughter combination your question pertains to...... characters? Chapter?

In the chapter Two kinds (last chapter of the 2nd part of the book), Suyuan forces her daughter to be a prodigy and wants her to be famous and bring pride to their family, like Waverly. Jing Mei was not as talented as her mom perceived her to be and she was happy with who she was. Her mother constantly forced her to be super talented, but she could not be. This shows that the relationship between the two was strained and was more of an obedient daughter and an oppressing mom